Thursday, July 13, 2017

I've Lived With Parasites & an Overgrowth of Yeast for Over 35 Years

Thank you for stopping by as always my goal is to inspire and transform your life. Before I delve into this blog, I have a question for you. Have you ever eaten chitterlings when you were a child or an adult and did you enjoy them? I did, that is, when I was about eight years old as I recall coming home while my mom cooked them and my goodness, the living room smelled like pure ass. That was the defining moment for me as I never ate chitterlings again (pig intestines). You might wonder what does chitterlings have to do with this blog. Well, going back to the era of slavery when slave masters fed black people "slop" or whatever they didn't want. We were fed pig intestines, pig feet, pig ears, cow tongue and any other animal organ that the slave masters deemed as food for us to ingest. Well, the last time I checked pigs, are still filled with parasites so as you ingest them, you ingest parasites. 

Why is that important? Since that time, the European man has been in charge of producing food for the masses. Their definition of food is pork, beef, poultry, fish, processed foods (hot dogs, lunch meat, cereal) starch, (rice, pasta). Today, GMO's or Hybrids (foods that are even real food) are produced by removing DNA from a herbicide or pesticide resistant plant and inoculating it in a non-resistant plant (corn, wheat, spinach, etc.) so that it withstands Round Up. And what do we do, we eat it and for some reason, we believe we are "just sick." Well, that along with a few other behaviors has landed my ass exactly where my skin is today. Seventy percent hyperpigmentation, but I thank the Universe I am alive to share my story. 

I remember when I was about eight years old and had pin worms. My mother told me it came from overeating sugar. I learned later in life that the pinworms came from ingesting parasite larvae. One of two ways, either eating gum and candy off the ground or the chitterlings, pork feet and ears. What's more, I remember having ringworms several times. Ringworm is a symptom of yeast overgrowth. Sugar, fruit, and carbs (potatoes) feed yeast, and so the average amount that we have in our body becomes an opportunity to create dis-ease in our bodies. 

So, here I am, forty-five years young, detoxing my body and working diligently to remove all parasites and yeast from my body. Parasites and an overgrowth of yeast cohabitated my body for the last thirty-eight years as I have experienced so much dis-ease. I have experienced irritable bowel syndrome, inflammatory bowel disease, colitis, hypothyroidism, early stage heart disease, obesity, high and cholesterol. The inability to lose weight, insomnia or sleep disturbances, psoriasis, alopecia, migraines has also plagued my body. Blurred vision, brain fog, hives, rashes, chronic fatigue, and diarrhea and constipation is also on the list. Lastly, bloating, seasonal allergies, allergies, sinusitis, urinary tract infections, vaginal infections, (yes I said it, now get over it), and itchy ears. Wow, that's quite a bit, huh? Yes, it is. Well, it is my truth, and I hope my truth sets you free. What's more, I am free of all that dis-ease and looks forward to healing my gut and getting rid of all the parasites and yeast.

According to Dr. Amy Meyers, yeast overgrowth, (Candida), is one of the most common conditions, especially among her autoimmune patients. Dr. Meyers states that she has seen thousands of patients suffer from digestive issues, fatigue, brain fog, recurring fungal infections, skin problems, mood swings, and more, all caused by Candida overgrowth! Dr. Meyers also stated that she had seen the incredible transformation that clients experience by beating their yeast such as energy and vitality return, mental clarity restored, and chronic symptoms fade away.

Candida is a fungus, which is a form of yeast, a minimal amount of which lives in your mouth and intestines. Its job is to aid in digestion and nutrient absorption, but when overproduced, it breaks down the wall of the intestine and penetrates the bloodstream, releasing toxic byproducts into your body and causing leaky gut. Leaky gut can lead to many different health problems ranging from digestive issues to depression (Dr. Amy Meyers).

How do you get Candida overgrowth? The healthy or ‘good’ bacteria in your gut typically keep your Candida levels in check. However, the Candida population can get out of hand if a round of antibiotics kills too many of those friendly bacteria, you have a diet high in refined carbohydrates and sugar (which feed the yeast), high alcohol intake, are taking oral contraceptives, or any number of other factors including a high-stress lifestyle. Even a diet high in beneficial fermented foods like Kombucha, sauerkraut, and pickles, can feed Candida causing an overgrowth (Dr. Amy Meyers). 

Back to my skin. The doctor's call it Lichen Planus, Psoriasis, Pityriasis Rosea and I call it a toxic colon filled with unprocessed foods, parasites, and yeast overgrowth. Western medicine doctors or traditional doctors treat symptoms and not the whole body. So for over thirty years, they have done just that, treat my symptoms and not my "whole" body. So, again, here I am covered in seventy percent hyperpigmentation and excited to raise awareness about cleaning your colon, detoxing your body and healthy eating. 

Illness shows up to teach us just as pain does. When we listen, we raise our vibrations. Apparently, I wasn't listening or was too ignorant to understand when the body needs a detox. In fact, my two health care degrees never taught me about a detox or colon cleanses. But, I learned quite a bit about dis-ease, but nothing about how meat and sugar are deadly for the body, other than it was right for you. SMH. 

Illness is a wake-up call, and we should be grateful our bodies are capable of talking to us. The problem is when we don't listen. What's more, pure ignorance does nobody any good. In fact, instead of using the word illness, how about we use the term "healing crisis" as your body is always trying to heal itself. And for that reason, I find it very strange for doctors to say, your body is attacking itself." I understand the whole autoimmune concept. However, you're telling me the human body is all of a sudden stupid and angry. I think not. What I believe is the human body is a magnificent artwork designed to live hundreds of years if we give it exactly what it needs and that is organic fruits and vegetables; live energy, (fruits and vegetables) not dead energy, (meat). But, we were all raised on meat, and that is why we are dying at a high rate and at such younger ages than our ancestors did. 

After forty plus years of eating meat, I am officially a vegan. The thought and sight of meat make me sick and especially after watching What The Health. One would think that the parasites and yeast motivated me to eat fruits and veggies only. Well, it did, partially. I stopped eating fish, and turkey (didn't eat beef and pork) after learning parasites are present in all meat. I wasn't convinced on giving up chicken until after watching What The Health and learning even after raising the chickens properly and feeding them an all Non-Gmo diet, ninety-five percent of chicken breast sample contains animal waste bacteria YUK. That entire movie shifted my mindset about meat period. I look forward to learning more about vegan recipes and creating optimal health.

I smoked cigarettes, drank alcohol and ate horrible food. It wasn't until last year (2016) and upon the misdiagnosis with a skin disorder that I decided to take control of my health, detox and allow my body to heal regardless of the time it takes. The yeast and parasites releasing over eighty different toxins in my body and blood stream are responsible for the hyperpigmentation. If I might add, it was beet red before, and I burned from the inside out. My colon was blocked with mucoid plaque, my sweat pores were clogged, (I was not able to sweat) as my entire elimination system was blocked and very unhealthy due to the meat, toxins, parasites, and yeast. My liver was incapable of detoxifying as it was overfilled with toxins and my immune system was compromised. My body was NOT able to release any toxins, so my skin took a major hit. You might ask, will my skin every get back to normal? Indeed, my skin is already healing and looks nowhere near as it did in the video below.  Watch the video below to see my complete body. 

But, don't think this was only a physical manifestation as I created unhealthy emotions last year and they played a significant part in this powerful experience. I will speak more to that in my upcoming book. However, it is my honor to share with you how I created this experience with my words. I talked to the Universe (God) about releasing cigarettes and excess weight (waste), alcohol, becoming a vegan, giving up junk and processed foods (chips). Well, I never asked how I wanted to accomplish these things, so the Universe blessed me with this experience (illness). I have released thirty-five pounds, don't eat meat or meat products, don't smoke cigarettes drink wine or alcohol, and I feel better than I ever have. You see, this was FOR me and not TO me. So now, I can use this empowering experience to empower you to raise your vibrations and create a better relationship with your body. it can't get any better than that. 

So, I have a few questions for you. 

Do you have parasites in your body?
Have you ever been tested?
Do you have an overgrowth of yeast?
Have you ever been tested?
What's your rock bottom?
How many pills will you take? 
How many more surgeries? 
How many hospital visits will you make? 
How many call off's from work? 
How many missed fun times with your children or grandchildren? 
How many more deaths in the family due to dis-ease caused by foods will you experience?
How many more health issues will you have to suffer from before you take your Personal Power back and do the work yourself? 

Seriously, take a look at your eating and social habits and determine if they are producing quality and longevity or a slow death? My old life was completely a slow death. Don't get me wrong, I have some ways to go before reaching optimal health, but I will get there. I know it's going to take more that thirty days of turpentine and castor oil, a twenty-eight-day detox and a thirty-day green juice detox to heal my body. It's going to take a lifestyle change, and I am ready. I will no longer ingest, inhale or drink anything that will slowly kill me. I am all about life and living today. I may have been born into a family of drinkers, smokers and meat eaters, but that doesn't mean I have to continue creating that type of life for myself.

It is time for all of us to EAT TO LIVE and not die. 

Lastly, America loves to blame everybody else for the healing crisis here. It's hereditary; you're getting old, have you left the country, blah, blah, blah. Try being honest FDA, HEALTHCARE, PHARMA and tell the truth about these parasitic, contaminated, hybrid, GMO ass food that Americans are ingesting. 

Tell them that ALL MEAT is contaminated with fecal bacteria and that a toxic colon, gluten, and lectin will destroy your intestines causing yeast to leak out and wreak havoc on the body. Tell them about how sugar, and all natural sugars, processed foods and GMO's feeds yeast. Tell them how cheese has an addictive substance in it that is no different than heroin (What The Health). Tell them about the mucoid plaque that blocks the colon; tell us about the yeast that causes ringworm, psoriasis, lichen planus, brain fog, athlete's foot, toenail fungal, belly fat, obesity and so much more. Tell them how parasites will feed on the human body for decades w/o any signs and then BOOM, your health deteriorates. You can't share the truth because your ass would be broke and the system will fail as we would no longer support your lies and death food.

Well, guess what, I'm going to tell in my upcoming book. Stay tuned. 
Watch the video below as I expose my entire body. 
Doctor's Call It Lichen Planus

Here are a few images of what I have released over the past sixty days. There is a lot more. I will share the rest of the images on my You Tube Channel Transforming Lives Worldwide on Monday, July 17, 2017, so be sure to subscribe


Mucoid Plaque


Thank you for reading!!! Please comment below and share with your friends. 

I am not only a Certified Life Coach, Author and Speaker; I have conquered thirty years of abuse; including incest, rape, sexual, physical, emotional, verbal abuse, and two domestic violence relationships. Today, my vision is to empower you to reach emotional freedom while gaining clarity and discovering your infinite possibilities. 
“What happened; didn't happen to me, it happened FOR me and today my mission is to guide you to design a healthy, meaningful life through knowledge, consciousness, self-reflection, accountability, self-love and forgiveness.”
Contact me for more details.
Healing the Mind, Body & Soul

Thursday, December 1, 2016

Your Inner Child Will Ruin Your Life

Thank you for stopping by as always my goal is to inspire and transform your life. A dear friend of mine posted a meme on Facebook that stated, "the first fifty years of childhood are always the hardest." I agree as what most of us do not understand is unless your inner child has healed, happy and feels safe, life will always appear to be harder that what it is. That meme inspired this blog. The questions I'd like to ask are; did you experience a wonderful childhood? If so, chances are, you are close and integrated with that creative and childlike person within your adult self. If by chance, you consider your childhood as lacking, painful or neglectful, you would have possibly experienced one or more of the following.

Mental Abuse:
*Ignored by parents
*Constantly punished
*Not nurtured by parents
*Too many high expectations
*Being put down or rejected
*Exposed to unhealthy behaviors
*Not embraced by parents/guardians
*Isolation, verbal assault, humiliation, intimidation, or any other treatment which may diminish the sense of identity and self-worth.

Experiencing mental abuse leaves a child hopeless as they will develop deep-rooted anger issues and fears from unresolved childhood trauma. More than likely, you probably experienced addictions like, drugs and alcohol, gambling, shopping, etc. These addictions are an unhealthy way of coping and provide a sense of comfort and safety in your adult life as you inner child feels unsafe. Also, you probably developed physical or mental dis-eases.

Physical Abuse:
*Lack of affection (kisses, hugs)
*Absence of food and shelter
*Slapped, kicked, punched, bitten and any form of violence
*Violent behaviors
*Unprotected sex
*An inability to access self-worth
*Addictions to drugs, alcohol, food, etc.
*Physical neglect of self, e.g. compulsive eating, or unhealthy eating habits

Physical safety is one of the most nourishing elements of a loving relationship. We witness this all the time when we see parents showing affection and providing food and shelter to their children. In the presence of physical abuse, the following occurs

Emotional Abuse:
*Yelling or swearing
*Ignoring or excluding
*Threats and intimidation
*Name calling or insults; mocking
*Lack of shared love, support and protection
*Lack of emotional support from parents or guardians
*Disapproval or rejection of your emotional expressions
*Denial of the abuse and blaming the victim

Experiencing emotional abuse leads to the inability to access your self-worth and esteem and with that you are more likely not to express, respect or believe your emotions or needs are important. You hide or avoid your feelings as you revert to your unwanted child as a way to protect yourself. You probably developed physical or emotional dis-ease as you have ignored your emotions for too long. Your emotions are a direct connection to the best part of you, that which is your spirit and needs to be nurtured, expressed, and respected. Otherwise, you revert to the neglected child within you and create an imbalance within your body. Lastly, you will be emotionally disconnected as there is no self-connection.

Sexual Abuse:
*Rape or attempted rape
*Unwanted kissing or touching
*Sexual insults toward someone
*Unwanted rough or violent sexual activity
*Sexual promiscuity, withdrawal or dysfunction
*Threatening someone into unwanted sexual activity
*Pressuring someone to have sex or perform sexual acts
*Refusal to use condoms or restricting someone’s access to birth control
*Keeping someone from protecting themselves from sexually transmitted infections
*Sexual contact with someone who is very drunk, drugged, unconscious or otherwise incapable of consent

To me, sexual abuse is by far one of the worst experiences anyone can ever endure. This form of abuse leaves a child feeling an entire list of unhealthy emotions, patterns, and behaviors. For more of my personal story, you can purchase the book Perfectly Planned (Overcoming incest, rape & sexual abuse) by clicking here.

*Loss of control
*Anger and blame
*Shock/ Numbness
*Changes in how we view trust
*Promiscuity, withdrawn or sexual dysfunction
*Inability to access self-worth, esteem and confidence
*Self-blame/guilt for "allowing" the crime to happen
*Dissociation or disconnection from life (inability to function in the real world)

In essence, any form of abuse projected onto a child creates one hell of an inner child to deal with as we reach adulthood. However, please understand this, while some, or maybe many of our problems stem from childhood neglect; blaming, self-pity and un-forgiveness will never benefit our mind, body or soul. Your parents were more than likely victims of the same behaviors they projected onto you as otherwise how would they know. We are creatures of recreating our childhood energy.

Personally speaking, I am very familiar with all forms of abuse, and for decades my inner child was in charge and not only wreaked havoc on me but my relationships, finances, health and wellness, career/life purpose, sexuality, spirituality and home life. You will witness my childish behaviors during my adult years as stated within my books, Perfectly Planned and Overcoming Toxic Relationships. Moving forward, how do you know when your child is present, and your adult is dormant?

There are certain behaviors that a child exhibits that an adult would not participate in normal circumstances. Imagine dealing with a child, it's like trying to manage a stray bullet, it will not be easy. When you spend time with your child, you witness this with their ability to express themselves and tell you exactly what they want, and if your feelings are hurt, they have no idea. Looking back when my son was three years old, I recall being in Walmart, and he wanted more toys. I refused to purchase what he wanted and my goodness, that kid was on the floor kicking and screaming. Had I gave in to him, he would have used that tantrum-like behavior for many years to come. I recall when my son was four years old and we were in Walgreen. We walked pass the "Ped Egg" (used for removing feet callouses), and out of nowhere, my son said, "Ma you need to get that for your foot." Wow, was I embarrassed. (lol) For the most part, children are free, creative, spontaneous and impulsive while lacking the ability to think first as they act and react.

As we become adults, we believe our inner child is dead and gone, I beg to differ, your inner child is alive, kicking and screaming while ruining your relationships. Imagine a time in your life when you were emotionally overwhelmed or just felt stressed out. More than likely, you reverted to your childhood behaviors to get your needs met. Here's an example from my book Overcoming Toxic Relationships. I visited my ex-boyfriend at his home, and he refused to let me in because he had company. I was furious as I wanted to go in and see who was in his house. The idea of him having another woman in the house emotionally enraged me so while talking to him through his basement window; I kicked it in. Stop right there. Destruction of any property will land your ass in jail. And that is where I was about fifteen minutes later.

Children are careless when they are angry as they have no idea how to express or control their emotions. A mature adult would have paused and thought about the consequences. So guess what, my inner child surfaced and landed me in jail. How do I know that was my inner child? Because, when I was a child, I behaved the same way out of anger. I would break things or become destructive. The list below explains the difference between adult behavior and child-like behavior.

Adult Behavior versus Child-like Behavior
1. Blaming- Children blame others when things go wrong. Children don't even understand what accountability means. Adults are accountable as they look to fix the problem, so it doesn't happen again. Adults know that in every situation, both parties have to look at self. Think of a time when you blamed someone knowing you were responsible.  What if you took accountability? What would you have learned?

2. Reactive- Children are reactive as they respond to a situation rather than controlling it to create a better outcome. Children don't have the cognitive ability to think about consequences. Adults are proactive and work to create an outcome that works for both parties. How does this look? Think of a time when you reacted to a situation or stimulus and the outcome was worse than the situation. If you had thought first, what would you have done differently?

3. Hasn't Accessed Higher Self- Children that lack maturity does not understand the higher self or realize when they have stepped out of line or disrespected their values or beliefs. Hence, the reason they blame others as they are incapable of "seeing" their ways of error. Children do not understand their "higher" self. Adults or mature adults recognize when their behaviors are out of line, will revisit the situation, apologize where necessary and be accountable. Grown-ups understand that the Ego or "little self" is reactive and destructive.

4. Impulsive- Children strike out when they feel hurt or mad. They speak carelessly and behave irrationally without thinking about the potential consequence. Adults pause and resist the temptation to spit venom on others. They work through the issue while seeking a beneficial outcome. Think of a time when you felt hurt or mad and impulsively reacted without thinking about the consequences. Did you cause more pain?

5. Doesn't Listen- Children refuse to listen as they are rebellious as they interrupt others when talking. Children don't realize that when they don't listen, they are creating a problem for themselves. Also, children don't understand the value behind listening. Adults are prepared to learn as they know there is always a lesson and they respect others viewpoints.

6. Lies- Children lie to save themselves or others, but adults are honest as they understand lies destroy everything.

7. Name Calling- Children call each other names when they are hurting or angry as adults seek to understand the issue and create solutions. Adults do not attack or disrespect others with mean words.

8. Bullying- A child that which is bigger than another child can naturally take a toy from a smaller child. Adults, regardless of size do not take from others or behave like bullies.

9. Defensive- Children use defense mechanism to protect themselves and get what they want. Children are quick to accuse and say, I didn't do or say that. Adults use defense mechanisms like listening and problem-solving.

10. Focuses on Solutions and Not Problems: Children are not solution oriented as they have no idea how to address any issue, so they will carry on for days talking about a problem, never once thinking about how to solve it. Adults or mature adults are solution focused as they realize focusing on problems will only create more. Adults understand the only way to move forward is to build a solution.

How many of the listed behaviors do you partake in as an adult? Be honest, so that you know when your inner child is present and so that you can heal your inner child, and prevent more sabotage. In those times listed above, your inner child will wreak havoc on your relationships, or even your life. People stressed out may rely on childhood behaviors to get their needs met. Hence, when one is stressed out, they are not in their "right" mind. For adults who were not adequately nurtured or made to feel safe in childhood, their inner child will behave destructively throughout adulthood. Even in the absence of childhood trauma, we all have an inner child that needs to be loved and kept in check.

Healing Your Inner Child
1. Open up and Connect- Allow people in and be willing to unite, remove the fear. Fear will only stunt your emotional growth thereby, slowing the growth and healing of your child. Be vulnerable as it is a great place to be. Don't worry about what people will say or think of you. Allow people in so that you can grow as people show up in your life to teach you about you, not them.

2. Remember Your Inner Child- What was he or she like? Write it down, so you know when your inner child is present and dominating your life. Be aware of who he or she was. Was he or she smart, scary, fearless, loud, soft-spoken, outspoken, talkative, shy, etc.? Who were you as a child? Remember that person and be able to differentiate between your adult and inner child. Trust me, he or she exists and is waiting for the moment to show up and show off.

3. Embrace Your Child- Your inner child lives and when someone says you are behaving immature, know that it is your inner child they speak of and that is okay. All children are immature. Embrace that little person and protect him or her. Embrace him or her. Love him or her. Speak positive about your inner child and express love and compassion for your little person. Make your inner child feel safe and loved.

4. Hun Fun/Play-What did you like to do when you were a kid? Did you like to play jump rope, play basketball, swim, watch cartoons; what brought you joy as a child? Allow him or her to come out and play. Dance like no one is watching. I know you did as a child. I did and still do today. Your inner child needs to laugh until their stomach hurts. Do you remember laughing so hard your stomach hurt? Whatever you wanted to do as a child and could not; do it today.

5. Provide a supportive, loving and nurturing life for self- If you are living in a toxic or neglectful environment today as an adult, you are not helping your inner child heal. What's more, you are adding more pain and misery on top of your childhood pain. Be kind to yourself. Know your worth. Believe in you. Eat right and exercise. Relax and detox your mind, body, and soul. Take care of you as know one else will.

6. Remove the Victim Mindset- What happened in your childhood and if it were anything like mine, I understand why you would be afraid to open up and love, have fun, trust, love self and remember. It might just be too painful, however, today, you are not a victim. You are not a child as you are an adult. You have the power to create what you want in your life, but, believing you are a victim, disappointments will always arise. You are a creator so be careful what you allow in your life. If more pain occurs, be accountable and see what you could have done differently. Don't let your inner child blame anyone for your choices as they are creations. You are not a victim, and only a child would behave as one. Go out and live. Remove the fear and trust the process of life. No one is doing anything to you. Remember, you are the creator of your life. So, if you want a better life, choose and create better experiences.

 7. Cry, Release, Express- Allow your child to feel pain, cry, and release. Don't ever deny your inner child the opportunity to release pain. Crying is a sign of life. Hence, it was the first thing you did at birth. It is one hundred percent okay to cry and express how you truly feel and that is even if it hurts someone else. Don't sacrifice self or harbor unhealthy emotions for the sake of others. Release those old emotions or your inner child will release them on someone else.

8. Hang Out With Your Children- Spend quality time with your kids and just be free. Let them teach you how to do the latest dance moves. Watch the movies they like to watch. Allow them to be who they are, and you will develop a special appreciation for children, therefore, appreciating your inner child. Trust me, my son and my inner child have the best times together. My teenager enjoys my son.

In essence,
as long as your inner child is afraid and suffering, you can expect to have difficult and painful relationships. To heal your inner child, you have to love self, all of you, flaws and all. You have to see that you are lovable, valuable and filled with greatness, and take the steps to affirm that in your life. Daily affirmations can include, I am worthy. I love and honor my inner child. I am safe, supported and loved. I am abundance and joy. I am beautiful and happy. You can also work on removing destructive habits and pessimistic mindsets and replacing them with positive ones, treating, acknowledging and rewarding yourself, self care, exercise, self-dates, as well as understanding your mental, emotional, physical and spiritual needs. Understand and respect what makes you happy and what makes you sad. Stay true to yourself and stay in your lane.

If you require more assistance with removing negative thoughts or shifting your mindset, you can purchase my book Mental Makeover. If you need a one-on-one session with Coach Kelley, please click here.

Kelley Porter, Transformation & Mental Coach / 5x Author / Empowerment Speaker
Human Services Student (Masters of Social Work - Advanced Clinical Practice)

I am not only a Certified Coach, Author, and Speaker; I have conquered thirty years of abuse; including incest, rape, sexual, physical, emotional, verbal abuse, and two domestic violence relationships. Today, my vision is to empower you to reach emotional freedom while gaining clarity and discovering your infinite possibilities. What happened; didn't happen to me, it happened FOR me, and today my mission is to guide you to design a healthy, meaningful life through knowledge, consciousness, self-reflection, accountability, self-love, and forgiveness.

Thank you for reading. Please share your stories below of how your child has wreaked havoc on your life. I'd love to hear them. 

Monday, February 22, 2016

The Wounded Beautiful Man

Thank you for stopping by as always my goal is to empower and transform your life. INjoy!

Have you ever truly seen your man, I mean naked, emotionally naked? 

Have you ever seen beyond his physical being and looked into his soul? 

Has he given you the opportunity to see his fears, insecurities, pain, or the self behind the ego?

Have you ever seen the depths of your man as he reaches the depths of your body?

His pain, fears, anger, jealousy, and insecurities is really the beauty beneath his physical body. 

The beauty that calls for him to trust you and share his deepest secrets. As he cries and lays his head upon your breast and wishes for you to nurture him as he longed for it for many years from his mother. His strong arms hold you gently and tightly as he just wants to feel your warmth and security. The security that was stolen from him as a little boy and now he's a man with the same fears and insecurities. You rub his head and assure his safety, the safety of his heart that was once discarded.

He is beautiful and strong as he cries and reconnects with his little boy's pain. He is beautiful as he withdraws and emotionally clams out of fear you might not understand. 

He is a man. A man in touch with his feminine energy and not afraid to be judged or accused of being a bitch. 

He is a man. A wounded man, who never healed from the wounded boy. 

He is a man. A man who trusts you, his woman, to understand, have compassion and love him for who he is. 

He is a man. A man who once lived in fear and until he felt your love, he can now live.

He wants to heal, but he needs to know he can count on you to support him and not judge him. He opens up and shows you the beauty of a wounded man. The pain deep down in his soul that has prevented him from loving and trusting you the way you deserve. He's a wounded man, but he's a loving man. 

He loves you, but his pain is deeper than you can imagine. Hold him, love him, empower him, cry with him, and never degrade him. 

He is a man, OUR man, the man who will protect and die for you. Cherish him, encourage him and let him be.

He's wounded, but he's beautiful as he allows you to see the true depths of his soul. He removes his Ego and allows you to see his true self. The pain he suffers, the fears he face, the insecurities he lives with and the jealousy that scares you. 

Have patience with him as he is a man, a wounded man, in need of real love and compassion.

The Wounded Beautiful Man

I am not only a Certified Life Coach, Author and Speaker; I have conquered thirty years of abuse; including incest, rape, sexual, physical, emotional, verbal abuse, and two domestic violence relationships. Today, my vision is to empower you to reach emotional freedom while gaining clarity and discovering your infinite possibilities. 

“What happened; didn't happen to me, it happened FOR me and today my mission is to guide you to design a healthy, meaningful life through knowledge, consciousness, self-reflection, accountability, self-love and forgiveness.”

Contact me for more details. 
Healing the Mind, Body & Soul 

Divine International Healing & Leadership Center

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Wednesday, June 17, 2015

KARMA Serves You in LOVE

Karmic Debt is at the soul level, meaning you are born with a certain amount of Karma that your previous person did not receive as he or she died before receiving it. 

What does that mean? We are NOT just five sense people (sight, taste, touch, feel, hear) NOPE, we are beyond that. We are multisensory spirits covered in skin, or in the physical realm. Before this life, you're living; your spirit was carried by someone else. (Reincarnation) This PERSONality created Karmic Debt as you had today and died before the Universe balanced the soul's energy (Meaning, passed away before Karma came back to him/her) So, now your PERSONality is born with that soul (spirit) and guess what, that is your birth Karmic Debt. Universal energy needs balancing for the purpose of healing and evolution. We are Spirits. 

LAW OF CAUSE & EFFECT: What you have done unto others in past lives or this one (cause), weaves the karmic agreement of your present and future (effect). Consciously acting from love and kindness to yourself and others instantly bring the present and future karmic contracts into greater pathways of empowerment and unfoldment. How do we create Karmic Debt and why is it important to not become upset when we experience it?

Karmic Debt comes from the Universe, and everything from the Universe is all in love. Example, I can recall cheating on my ex-boyfriend years ago. Fast forward, when I dated my son's father, he cheated on me. Was I to be upset when I committed the same act years before? No, but I was as I didn't realize I created that debt. What's more, this was a man who slept with many women so what was I to expect. I got just what I deserved, but all in love. That particular part of my person was broken and filled with lies, betrayal, and deceit. The lesson for me was to remove those behaviors from my life, and I did. Can you see how cheating and being cheated on made me better? Karma is good for the soul; it is just a matter of how the PERSON decides to view it or connect to it. Allow your heart to connect, not your person. 

We come to learn what is and is not like love. In the worlds of duality, (good & evil) we learn from “good-bad,” “problem-solution,” fear and doubts, etc. until we evolve into divine love, joy, and awareness. (ONLY ONE SOURCE) 

Karmic Debt is here to serve us a purpose as we signed up and agreed to what we have, are, and will experience. It is critical NOT to react; as with everything we feel, say, or do, we make choices. Whatever you choose to do; produce a wave that travels through time; those choices are our Karma, good or bad. Let's go a little deeper. 

Imagine the murder of a child. All those attached to that child will react in pain, anger, discord, guilt, and might even commit unhealthy acts. Let us pose this question. What if the "person" who carried the child's soul before the child "person" was born, committed murder? What if? What if the balancing the Universe's energy required the same act committed in the previous lifetime? How would you view this experience then? 

What if the "person" I was before today had sex with children and wreaked havoc on them? What if? What would that person's Karma be if they lived to feel it? What if that person died before Karma balanced their soul's energy? Who would then receive that Karma? Me. 

As a child, I was sexually molested. The Universal Law of Karma states that the same way the energy is put out into the world is the exact way it is returned. What you do to others will come back and be done to you. Karma is not just in your present life as it also applies to the lives you lived before the present one. One might find this hard to digest as we believe we are only five senses and that once we physically die, that is it. Energy is nor destroyed or created as it is only transferred. We are energy. If you understood that we are multi-sensory spirits, you would see that Karma never ends unless we accept responsibility for our thoughts, emotions, and actions and "allow it to be okay." 

LAW OF EMPOWERMENT states that if you “let whatever happens to be ok,” you are accepting the “default” pattern of karma. Empowerment comes from a conscious decision to take control of karma by taking absolute and total responsibility for your life and by always consciously acting with loving kindness.

Everything that happens in our lives is for us as nothing is by chance, and nothing is for our demise. We have to trust the process of life as everything is where it should be and all through our creations. The Universe only provides love. 

LAW OF LOVE – Karma begins and ends with love. Karma was created to propel you as a soul on a personal journey of reincarnation through the universe. Karma ends when you have perfected yourself in your ability to love unconditionally. The sole purpose of karma and reincarnation is to bring us all to a state of divine love, joy, and awareness.


I am not only a Certified Life Coach, Author and Speaker; I have conquered thirty years of abuse; including incest, rape, sexual, physical, emotional, verbal abuse, and two domestic violence relationships. Today, my vision is to empower you to reach emotional freedom while gaining clarity and discovering your infinite possibilities. 

“What happened; didn't happen to me, it happened FOR me and today my mission is to guide you to design a healthy, meaningful life through knowledge, consciousness, self-reflection, accountability, self-love compassion and forgiveness.” 

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Monday, March 23, 2015

15 Confidence Boosters

Thank you for stopping by as always, my goal is to inspire and empower you. 

There is no need to seek external empowerment as it all starts within you. You have the power via your thoughts, emotions and energy to change anything about you. 

Listed below are 15 ways I use to empower self, teens and adults. Incorporate these into your life and let me know if you feel differently and good about self.

Confidence: Belief or trust in self, someone or something
Esteem: Respect & admiration for self or someone
  • Write Down 10 Positive & 10 Negative Things About Self: The goal in this is to examine what it is about you that you would like to change. You cannot conquer what you refuse to face. Of course the positive things will make you feel good about you, but identifying the negative will help you feel even better as now you can focus on improving self.  
  • Set Small Goals & Meet Them: Goals such as cleaning your closet out, reorganizing your bedroom, or reading a book; small or short term goals that you know you can reach. Don't create hard goals until you're able to accomplish smaller goals, as if you do not reach those harder or bigger goals, you will feel bad about and not trust self.
  • Groom Self/ Dress Nicely: When you look good, you feel good. Take care of self; don't go outside looking shabby with uncombed hair. Your appearance is everything and when you don't provide self-care, you're doing self a disservice. Make an effort to look good before leaving your house; have dress up days and take pics. All of this will boost your confidence.
  • Take Selfies: Take lots of selfies and enjoy the view. No, this is not arrogance or vanity. If you can't enjoy and feel good about looking at self, who will? Trust that the reflections looks good and don't allow anyone to tell you differently. Look at self and appreciate your beauty, flaws and all. 
  • Think Positive Thoughts: Positive thoughts create positive energy. As thoughts become things, be intentional about your thoughts and emotions. If you want abundance and success, think it, believe it, and you will receive it. We are creators and if you look at your life, it is your thoughts that got you there. What do you want in your life? -- Whatever that might be, only focus on what you want. Don't give any energy to that which you do not want. Think positive ONLY.
  • Remove Negative Thoughts: We get about 60, to 70,000 thoughts a day and 95% of them are negative. Don't ignore the thought; counteract it with a positive thought. If your mind tells you, "I am fat or ugly," You simply say, "I am beautiful and my body is sexy." When you allow negative thoughts to dominate your mind, that energy becomes an emotion (E-energy in motion) and you then create a negative atmosphere that will present a negative thing. Change your thoughts; change your life. Tell the thought to "GO SIT DOWN." Also, if someone says something negative about you, don't internalize it, don't own it; don't digest someones "thoughts" or opinions of you. It is theirs, not yours. 
  • Speak and Behave Positively: When you speak and behave negatively, you are putting negative energy in the Universe. That negative energy is going to come right back to you. Go out and do a random act of kindness, compliment people, speak only good things as good will come back to you. When you make others feel good, you feel good in return and you learn to believe in you. 
  • Sit with Self: Learn to appreciate being alone and stop feeling like you need to be around people or the external world. Date self, take self shopping, go see a movie or skating; get to know self by sitting with self. If you can't appreciate self, who will? Listen to those thoughts and determine if any speak truth, and if they do, journal it. See what you can do to change self as the external world cannot do that. Get to know you.
  • Think and Speak Slowly: Have you ever tripped over your own words? I have. Think about what you want to say and say it slowly. That way you develop communication skills and trust me, people are grateful for those who communicate effectively. No reason to hurry; speak clear and slowly and you will be surprised at the responses. People respond positively to that which they understand. What this means is, you will have listeners and what better way to trust and make self good. 
  • Never Compare Self to Others: Comparing self to others is a definite blow to your confidence as well as your esteem. Compare self to self as you are the standard for you. Stop seeking external approval. Comparing self to others mean you do not value or trust self. The way to compare is to have "Internal Competition;" be better than you were yesterday as there should be no one in your mind who you feel is better than you. You are the most important person in your life. Compare self to yesterday's self. 
  • Focus on Solutions, not Problems: When there are problems, the only thing to do is find a solution. Problems, challenges or obstacles are here to serve and build us. However, when you focus on the "problem" you give too much energy to it and attract more negative energy to self, and this makes you feel horrible and not trust self. Focus on the solution. If you have a problem with a friend or anyone, be the first to ask, "How can we solve this?" Thereafter begin to offer solutions and work through them. This type of energy will certainly enhance your confidence and make you feel like gold. (Problem Solver)
  • Exercise: Exercising at least 30 minutes a day releases a hormone called "Endorphins" or the "Feel Good" Hormone. Get out and walk or jog as not only will you feel good, but you can definitely lose weight. Exercising is a great way to increase confidence and esteem. When you look good, you feel good. Challenge yourself; walk or jog for 30 minutes on one day and the following week, go for 45 minutes. This is a great was to build self-confidence. You CAN do it. 
  • Learn Something New Daily: Read a book, or do some research on something you've always wanted to learn about. When you increase your knowledge, you increase your confidence as being smart is always a confidence booster. Once a week, seek knowledge and enhance upon you. The more research you do, the better you feel about your abilities to find new information and learn it. 
  • Remove Perfection from Your Life: We are perfect in our right as humans; however there is no such thing as perfection. Don't focus on scoring perfect scores or having the best body or wearing a size two. That does not insinuate perfection. Don't spend too much time on trying to make anything perfect in your life as it will not happen. Perfection is for those who lack confidence and it will not build your confidence as it does not exist. If you have a pimple, embrace it; if you have a flat butt, embrace it; embrace you; flaws and all. Love self as you are beautiful and smart just the way you are.
  • Do your Best & Feel Good Regardless of the Outcome: As long as you do your best, that is all that matters. Results are for those who are fixated on perfection. Focus on getting it done with your best foot forward. As long as you know you did your best, nothing else matters. Always trust that what you have done was the best you could do. 
If you require more assistance in boosting your confidence please send a request to and in the subject line, enter "CONFIDENCE."

I am not only a Certified Life Coach, Author and Speaker; I have conquered thirty years of abuse; including incest, rape, sexual, physical, emotional, verbal abuse, and two domestic violence relationships. Today, my vision is to empower you to reach emotional freedom while gaining clarity and discovering your infinite possibilities. 
“What happened; didn't happen to me, it happened FOR me and today my mission is to guide you to design a healthy, meaningful life through knowledge, consciousness, self-reflection, accountability, self-love and forgiveness.”
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Saturday, January 25, 2014

Self Reflection & Correction

Thank you for stopping by as always, my goal is to empower and transform your life. 

Throughout all my childhood abuse, the toxic relationships with my family, the abusive and/or bad relationships with men, I found my calling and passion. God blessed me with a life full of experiences that many are suffering from today. He not only blessed me, he healed and restored me. I am grateful to God and love Him so. I am nothing without God and I know that if you believe and trust in Him, He will do the same for you. I am a blessed and no longer a wounded woman seeking love, lacking esteem and respect. I am loved by God and myself. 

Abuse tends to have an everlasting effect on victims and survivors, however once you become an adult; it is time to "do" the work. The work is self-reflection. You have to look back and deeply within and be totally honest with yourself about how the childhood abuse affected you. You may be a survivor, but is your heart ready and willing to receive and give love.

In order to stand in your truth and live an authentic life, you have to accept your ugly truth. If you are attracted to chaos and negativity, you have to accept it. If you don’t know what love was, accept it. If you think being slapped in the face or beaten is normal, accept it. If you lack self-esteem and self-love, admit it. If you are insecure, accept it. If you are desperate for a man, accept it. If you are afraid to be alone, accept it. You have to accept these patterns and behaviors because the only way to change is to make yourself aware of the problem. What's more, you have to be accountable for your actions.

As adults we make bad decisions and then we blame others. The moment you blame another for wreaking havoc on you, you deny yourself the opportunity to learn and grow. You have to be accountable for allowing someone to mistreat you. If you are in a domestic violent relationship or just a bad relationship and you have a way out, yet you choose to stay; be accountable. That’s not to say you deserve to be mistreated or abused, but it’s simply to say that you could have made a better decision. We all have choices and when you choose to see your faults, it is then that you will begin to grow. Self-reflection leads to self-correction, but the only way corrections can be made is if you stand in your truth and do the work.

Many of you think you can change a man or woman as I did. Wrong. The only person you need to focus on is yourself. When you begin to focus on changing others you lose your sense of self and with that, it’s impossible to see the patterns and behaviors that live within you. Change can only occur when we accept the fact that there is a problem. How you see and handle any relationship will either stunt or improve your growth. Until you are ready to self-reflect and embrace your ugly truth, I highly suggest the only person you date is yourself. Take some time to date and learn self or you will attract another bad relationship. You are what you attract. Dig deep and see exactly what you can do to make yourself better. Otherwise you will take the same person to the next relationship and you will have no one to blame, but yourself. You are not responsible for other’s action, but you are responsible for yours. Don’t worry about what the last man or woman did, worry about what you did or didn't do. People are who they were before you even crossed their paths. Therefore, their actions and behaviors have nothing to do with you and vice/verse.

Don’t walk away angry. When you walk away angry, you take that same anger to the next relationship and wreak havoc on someone who has nothing to do with your last man or woman. Anger will also block your blessings as an angry heart is incapable of seeing, embracing or accepting a blessing; such as a good man or woman. What’s more, an angry person lacks faith and love. How can you give someone your whole heart when you are angry? Walk away in peace and just know that God has something better for you. Wouldn't you rather walk away and suffer for five or ten months than to live the next five or ten years in pain with someone? That’s a question.

Being insecure is a sure way to run a man or woman away. Insecurities are unfortunate self-doubts either originating from growing up in a dysfunctional household or being betrayed and deceived as an adult. The unfortunate part is the behaviors that surface from these insecurities are projected onto an innocent individual and causes unnecessary pain. More than often these behaviors have nothing to do with the other person, but most will try to blame the other person. If you are questioning everything your man or woman does and they haven’t given you reason, you are insecure and needs to do a self-check.

Lacking self-love is a sure way to end up in a bad or abusive relationship. Why? Because you are confused about what love is and will accept anything. When you truly love yourself, you will not put yourself in harm’s way or allow anyone to mistreat you. Mistakes happen in relationships and sometimes you will get hurt, but you have to know the difference between love and abuse. In the end you have to make a conscious decision to move forward after being knocked down. It won’t happen overnight and it will not be easy. But, you can do it. Don’t look at how hard it is, look forward to meeting the person you will become. Move on with your life and work towards creating a new you. Remove the fear and break out into the person you were meant to be. God knows your beginning and end so now it is for you to self-reflect and discover the real you. 

I am not only a Certified Life Coach, Author and Speaker; I have conquered thirty years of abuse; including incest, rape, sexual, physical, emotional, verbal abuse, and two domestic violence relationships. Today, my vision is to empower you to reach emotional freedom while gaining clarity and discovering your infinite possibilities. 

“What happened; didn't happen to me, it happened FOR me and today my mission is to guide you to design a healthy, meaningful life through knowledge, consciousness, self-reflection, accountability, self-love and forgiveness.”

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