Tuesday, February 16, 2016

Sex / Sexuality The Power of the Penis (P.O.P)

Thank you for stopping by as always my goal is to transform and empower your life. Many of you may know that my latest book is entitled "I Fell in Love With The Dick, Cus I Thought Dick Was It." I was asked several times why did I title it as such and why am I writing about sex. There are several answers I can provide, but I will share this. In my forty four years of life, I have never really appreciated the act of sex as I do today. Sex is truly a beautiful experience and certainly does induce a love or euphoric feeling. However, in that feeling of love, women must understand there is more to a man than just his penis. There is also more to your emotional roller coaster after he enters you and in my book, I will share all of that and so much more.

For the sake of this blog, I interviewed two men and two women with four different views on sex and I was surprised at the information provided. Before I dive into the interviews, I'd like to share some of the behaviors I exhibited after falling in love with the penis. I did some of the strangest things like:



  • Lying to get back over their house 
  • Daydreaming to the point of forgetting what I was doing or leaving my personal items at a friend's house 
  • Ditching my friends 
  • Counting down the days until I get it again 
  • All of a sudden, I didn't mind waking up in the wee hours of the morning 
  • Giving baths, money, food, time, energy and everything else 
  • Sacrificing my credit 
  • Looking for them (him) in the daytime with a flashlight 
  • Calling them 182 times a day 
  • Feeding them, literally from the spoon in my hand 
  • Popping up at their houses unexpected 
Oh yea, that was me, but thank God I married one of them. LOL. Women have been known to do some strange things when they become dickmatized and some men know their penis have power and in this blog, I will share the participants' opinions and views on the P.O.P. and Sexuality. All participants are single or unmarried. 

Parenting Over Penis, but the Police Man Had Me Gone
Desire is a 41 year young woman who resides in Chicago and works as a Phlebotomist. Sex was never discussed with her family as her parents were very religious. Desire attended a Catholic grammar school where sex was discussed, but only accepted if it was after marriage. I asked Desire what were her thoughts on Sex/Sexuality and the P.O.P. She responded, when I became interested in sex my mom told me flat out, NO and never explained why. Eventually I had a boyfriend when I was fifteen and he would sneak into my window, hide in my closet, or I would sneak into his window just to have sex with each other. We spent a lot of time together and if I look back now, I would've waited as it wasn't all that. 
I asked Desire had she ever experienced a moment of losing herself after she became sexually involved with a man. 

She responded, not until I was an adult and I remember going to my ex's house and I banged on his window. I cussed and yelled at him as he refused to open the door. I hit the glass so hard I cut my wrist and after going to the hospital, the doctors thought I tried to commit suicide. 

Desire shared with me how after she had her children, she became somewhat disconnected from her emotions so that she keeps her children from having to be around the pain she experienced. 
I asked Desire to explain more. 

She responded, after I divorced my husband, I remained single and unattached to anyone for about eleven years. I had about four to five sex partners, but these were men I had already been with. One of them, I will call him Mr. Fireman, I liked him. He was an older man and laid back; my type. We saw each other often and although he knew my children, I refused to allow him too close to them. I refused to let him in my heart. The sex was good, but not the greatest. I remember being out one day and I saw my very first boyfriend and the first thing I looked at was his penis area. I was looking to see if he was still working with that. We talked and after having sex with him, I literally forgot about Mr. Fire Man. He was a Police Officer and the same boyfriend who used to climb in my window when I was younger. As an adult, he did things to me that were never done and I fell in love with his penis. Lord, have mercy. One day, Mr. Fireman called and told me I had forgotten about him. I did. I was so gone and caught up on Mr. Policeman's penis it was unreal. But still, being a mother, I choose to keep some distance and not allow myself to get so caught up that men were around my children. Being a mom takes precedence over the penis, but it does have power. 

I'm More Than Penis
I spoke with Todd, a 50 year young man who resides in Chicago and is the CEO & Founder of Game Changers Corp. I asked Todd what was his knowledge and education about sex as he grew up. He stated sex was not a conversation as I grew up as I was exposed to sex via pornography magazines. In my mind, sex was a driving force, dominate and a desirable activity. Todd shared as he became a young man he was sexually promiscuous and thanks God he doesn't have Aids or illegitimate children. Today, Todd views Sex/ Sexuality as an act that should be postponed until marriage as he has practiced abstinence for three years and two months.

I asked Todd if refraining from sex been difficult to do. Todd responded, 
Not really as I want to be obedient to God, but if I need to release, I masturbate and that is a sin as well. I prefer to get to know a woman spiritually, emotionally and mentally before I enter her. I don't perceive my penis as having power as I believe I am more than just a penis. Maybe when I was a Senior in College, but not now.

Todd shared an experience he remembers from his prime time. He dated a woman for a little while and after witnessing her lack of table etiquette, he was turned off and decided not to see her again. He put her on the plane to Dallas, Texas and moved on with his life. Todd said a few months later, this woman drove all the way to downtown Chicago and parked her car in front of the forty story building I lived in. I asked him what he thought about that and his response was. She's crazy. I asked him did he believe her behaviors had anything to do with his penis. He responded, now that I think about, yes, but she knew I was a good catch and didn't want me to get away. But, I was already gone. So I believe it was more about who I am and not my penis.

I asked Todd what was his thoughts on men having sex with many women. Todd responded, 
Sex induces happiness and pleasure and I believe fills a void for some men and in fact, it makes them feel empowered, accepted and gives them a false sense of esteem. I believe men and women abuse sex as it is now recreational. There aren't a lot of people who are obedient to God, but, I will remain abstinent until I'm married.

Mental Stimulation Before Penis Penetration
I interviewed LaNiedra, a 43 year young woman who has worked in the Insurance Industry for over thirteen years and lives in San Diego, California. She recently opened ARDEIN'AL
, an online jewelry and accessory boutique. LaNiedra grew up in  a conservative environment where sex was not discussed. She stated she does not believe penis has power. I asked LaNiedra what has her experience with sex been like? 

LaNiedra stated there has been boring experiences as well as loving experiences and I believe sex is for procreation. At least three to four months should pass before having sex with a man. Otherwise, it will take years until I meet the person who deserves me. I asked LaNiedra has she ever been caught up on or fallen in love with a penis. 

I have never fallen in love with a penis, but, sex does generate stronger feelings. It takes building intimacy on an intellectual level before the physical connection takes place. In my experience, I like to get to know the person through their likes and dislikes. How were they raised, their favorite colors, hobbies, life goals and  ambitions. Do they have a spiritual connection with God? I observe behaviors to detect loyalty and integrity traits. Are they respectful? And is the respect being displayed within their actions. After the intimacy has been established, we can move forward. I asked LaNiedra to share an experience where she was out of character in a relationship. 

LaNiedra responded, before I had sex with my ex, I cared about him, but after we had sex, my feelings grew stronger. He and I were very sexual and actually had sex in the car a few times and in a small coffee shop; something I had never done with anyone else. I remember going to his house unannounced and found another woman there with him. I wanted to throw that woman out of the house. I realized then something was off about me, but thereafter, I left him. 

I asked LaNiedra if she believed there was power in the penis and she stated. 
For some women there maybe be power. However, as for me, a man cannot connect to my body if he has not gained access to my mind. I believe the power can be given if you become addicted physically without building the intellectual part of intimacy.

My Penis Has Power
Eddie 
Alvarado is 43 year young man, better known by his Poetic name of The Prince of Pain (P.O.P). He was raised under Catholicism, but believes in Jesus Christ. Eddie is somewhat neutral when it comes to religion as he reads both the Quran and the Bible.

I asked Eddie what were his views on Sex/Sexuality and P.O.P. and he responded,
 I spent 20 years in prison and so there wasn't a lot of sex, but being a handsome man as I am, I had some time with a few of the female guards. For a moment, I thought I needed sex and would break down if I didn't get it. But after 20 years in prison, I learned to have discipline. I asked Eddie if there was ever a time where he felt like his Penis had Power. Eddie responded, 

It does, but so does pu***. You know that goes both ways, but, yes, I know what I'm capable of. Men and women have desires, but I had to learn how to control my other muscle; that's what I call it. I had to realize that my other muscle has a brain of its own and I couldn't allow it to control me. I asked Eddie has there ever been a time where he saw a fine woman and made it in his mind that he was going to get her and give it to her good? Eddie responded, 

After I got out, I tried a relationship for about a year but moved on. I eventually met this beautiful woman and we went out a few times as that's what she wanted to do. I knew what I was capable of, but I refrained from hitting it, because I have too much to do in my life. I asked Eddie, do you realize that your penis has power and will have a woman behaving in ways she didn't realize? Eddie responded, 

Yes, I do know that and even in business I have to be very careful, you know. I have to have discipline. I'm always on the road and stuff and see beautiful women all the time. But, I can't bring drama to myself like that. I have to maintain my discipline.
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In essence, sex taps directly into your spirit and creates the feeling of love and pleasure as it's supposed to. And if it doesn't, you might want to check your Chakra. Sex is and always will be a powerful act as without penis it would be powerless. If you are imbalanced with unhealthy emotions, then sex would be bad. As it takes free emotions to really feel the joy in sex. What would be the purpose of pro-creation if there was no pleasure behind it? Something as beautiful as creating life should create a feeling of love and joy. I mean, what's the point of sex if two people lie on top of each other, sweat, yell, scream, pray, become violent, run out of breath and become exhausted if it doesn't feel good. Sex is phenomenal and a beautiful act and if it doesn't open you up in the sweetest way, check your emotions. Imagine having sex every morning, your every day would be filled with joy. Sex is nurturing and in the absence of it, you might just become cranky. If you're interested in sharing your views and opinion in next months blog, please send a message to kelleypturner@gmail.com and in the subject header write "P.O.P."
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I am not only a Certified Life Coach, Author and Speaker; I have conquered thirty years of abuse; including incest, rape, sexual, physical, emotional, verbal abuse, and two domestic violence relationships. Today, my vision is to empower you to reach emotional freedom while gaining clarity and discovering your infinite possibilities. 

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