Friday, February 24, 2012

Letting Go

We've heard about "Letting Go" all too many times and sometimes it can be very difficult. But before I begin, when we look at this term, "Letting Go" can run in many directions. I.e. giving up a bad habit, forgiving someone, walking away from a bad relationship, stress, walking away from money owed to you, past pain, etc...
"Letting Go" can range from the worst experience to the least worst experience, but the goal is always to LET GO and never hold a grudge, move forward and appreciate change. Experiences are meant to make you better not bitter.

There are several reasons we need to LET GO
  • Open the doors for new experience
  • Change is good
  • Missed opportunities
  • The situation you're in maybe hindering you
  • The situation or habit maybe bad for your health
  • Physical ailments can arise from holding on to stress
  • You are in your own way
  • Unhealthy emotions lead to physical disease
Sometimes we hold on to things that are not good for us out of fear of being lonely or just change. Change is not always easy, but the only way to improve or get better is to let go of bad habits, "Bad" men or women, stress, etc. Letting go doesn't mean it's the end; it means the beginning of something better. However, one has to be brave enough to let go of the old and allow the new in. When we hold on to something that's not beneficial to us we remain in a standstill and never move forward. One of the most common goals among humans is to be happy and holding on to something or someone not good for you is not the road to happiness. Sometimes we hold on to 'bad' men or women out of fear that we will be lonely or never have anyone else. Well the only thing that stands in the way of a good woman or man is a bad one. Sometimes we hold on to stress because we do not know how to release it through positive energy. We do not know how to process our emotions. One of the best remedies for relieving stress is exercise. Serotonin, the "Feel Good" hormone is released and makes one feel good. Try it.

When we refuse to let go of past relationships we bring baggage into new relationships. Look at your experience in any relationship as a learning tool to make you better, take responsibility and let go. What happened with one man or woman has nothing to do with the next. Not to mention, you were not perfect in your relationships. Nothing happened to you, it happened for you. Bad habits, cigarettes, drugs, alcohol; no need to explain why one would need to let go of these habits. They all lead to physical illnesses. The only difference in this situation is that these are addictive, controlled substances and maybe even harder to let go. Seek help, meditate and/ or pray.

In essence, regardless of what situation you may be dealing with or having difficulties with, letting go means the start of something better. So have faith and courage and let go. It's going to be okay.

I am not only a Certified Life Coach, Author and Speaker; I have conquered thirty years of abuse; including incest, rape, sexual, physical, emotional, verbal abuse, and two domestic violence relationships. Today, my vision is to empower you to reach emotional freedom while gaining clarity and discovering your infinite possibilities. 

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